Tween Talk with L: “What’s a boner?”

So as a mom of boys one of the most difficult things we face is when they ask questions about sex. Let’s face it if they were girls it would be easier because we could use our own personal experiences to relate to them. With boys it’s kinda like trying to teach someone to use the force when you don’t actually have your own lightsaber.

Tonight started out like any other night. Dinner, laundry, the usual routine. Then Bam! Out of nowhere, My 11 year old son says
” Mom, what’s a boner”?

I already know what you are thinking. You are wondering to yourself if I…
(a.) Completely lost my mind.
(b.) Told him to go ask his father.
(c.) Ran away with my hands over my ears and dived into the closest bottle of wine?

I am proud to say the correct answer is..
(d). None of the above.

I stared at him for what had to be at least a minute (probably due to shock, possibly hoping he would get distracted by something, forget his question, and run off) then I pulled up my big girl panties and told him it was when all the blood flowed to his penis and it got hard. He said ” Oh, like an erection”. Then he ran off to play video games.

My husband (who was actually sitting less then a foot away the entire time, but never offered to save me) found it amusing. I’m sure I probably turned fifty shades of red and he was probably sitting on the edge of his seat with anticipation the entire time waiting to see how I was going to handle this one. Who needs to go to the movies when you have boys. The truth is, it’s just awkward to have this type of conversation with your child.

Why did my son come to me you ask? Especially when his father was in the same room.

Because I set a precedent of open ended questions and communication the night we had the sex talk. If you want to hear how I survived that talk stay tuned for the next post….

Thanks for reading this edition of tween talk! #lifewithboys

-L-

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4 thoughts on “Tween Talk with L: “What’s a boner?”

  • March 1, 2015 at 11:50 am
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    Loved this, defo need to read in prep for my boys being teenagers haha

    Leah x
    leahandtwo.co.uk

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