I woke up the other morning to a viral video (I posted below) of a gender
reveal where the mom found out she was finally having a daughter after having six sons. It was a cute video and I am happy for the mom. The problem is, someone had posted it on the page of a friend (who is pregnant with her 4th
little man) with a comment about how she should try again or something like
that. I’m sure whoever posted it did so with the best intentions in mind. However, I found it kind of odd that someone would insinuate that she should already start thinking about having baby number five before baby number four even made his grand entrance into this world.
I don’t know how many kids her and her husband plan on having, or how she feels about having four boys, if she really wants a girl, or what her relationship is with the person who posted the video (maybe it’s a close relative who knows she really wants a girl). What I do know is it hit a nerve with me because of how often I hear the phrase “So when are you going to try for a girl?” My husband and I had always planned on only having two kids. (A boy and a girl). We were really happy when we found out our oldest was going to be a boy. My husband and my oldest were ecstatic when they found out my youngest was going to be a boy (because they are traders). My oldest really wanted a brother and my husband thought the idea of two sons was great. I have to admit, I cried when everyone left the ultrasound room so I could get changed. I knew in that moment I would never be the mother of the bride, or have spa days with my daughter, or be the mother of the first female president.
Fast forward six years from that moment and I am actually ok with being a ‘boy mom’. What I am not ok with is that other people seem to think my family is somehow incomplete. That when strangers see me in the store with my sons, my nephew, and one of the many neighbor boys who might as well be one of my kids they feel the need to ask when I am going to get pregnant again so I can have the one thing that’s obviously missing in my chaotic crazy world, a daughter.
So fellow ‘boy moms’ I decided to make a list of answers that we can give each time one of the following question is presented to us.
(These answers are meant to be as silly as the question)
Q: “Don’t you want a
A: “No, I heard this rumor that they can’t pee standing up
and I’m not sure I would know how to potty train one.”
|I mean I guess I could buy this book…|
going to try for a girl?”
|Stop looking at me like that!|
Q: “If you get
pregnant again it might be a girl, don’t you want to try?”
A: “If I get pregnant again… it might also be twin boys!”
Q: “Don’t you want a
daughter so you can do her hair, go prom dress shopping, and watch her dance
A: “Actually that’s why I have nieces and friends who have daughters because I can tag along during the fun moments
without ever having to show someone how to insert a tampon….Gross!”
|Plus I don’t know how to do hair. I would end up like this guy|
Q: “Don’t you think
your house needs a little girl?”
A: “No, what my house really needs is a maid…if I can ever
afford another child I’ll probably just hire a maid instead!”
Q: “Aren’t you sad
that you will NEVER have a daughter?”
A: “Nope, because someday girls will come along that my sons
will want to marry and then I will get daughter-in-laws. Who will obviously
love me and we will have spa days and drink margaritas by the pool and it will
be just like having daughters except they will already be potty trained and
know how to insert a tampon!”
|Obviously they won’t feel this way about me……right!?!?|
Feel free to use these excuses or share your own below. 🙂
Tiffany O’Connor is a mom to two amazing, energetic, and fearless boys. She is married to her high school sweet heart and has three college degrees. Her hobbies include watching TV shows about zombies, hiding in her hot tub with a bottle of champagne, and writing all about her misadventures parenting in a “man cave” at #Lifewithboys.